Why is it that people mistake hurt for bitterness?
There's a woman on my message board who is PG with her second. She hates being pregnant. She lets everyone know how much she hates it. Today, someone told her that it could be worse, she could still be TTC. She called her bitter.
It hurts to read how much she hates being pregnant. It just does. There are women, myself included who want to be pregnant so badly that it hurts, hurts to read how much others hate it. Yes, I *do* think to myself "you have no idea how much I want to be pregnant, how can you complain?"
Does that make me bitter? I don't think it does. I don't begrudge her her pregnancy. I'm happy for her, but it stings to hear her complain about it. Because she doesn't realize how lucky she is. She doesn't get it.
Being hurt and being bitter are two different things. Women get hurt. It hurts when I see a former student, all of 16 with her new baby. It hurts to hear women complain about the thing I want most in the world. I'll even admit that it hurts to hear women complain about getting close to their due date...yes, yes it does...but I try to understand. It's when it's over and over again that I speak up and say something. I do have that right don't I?
If that makes me bitter the so be it. I don't consider myself a bitter person. I do have feelings though, it's okay to show them, or it SHOULD be okay.
What do you think? What is the difference between being bitter and being hurt?