Friday, May 30, 2008

Well, you can tell he's the youngest....

Yesterday was "graduation" from New Blues for Boo. It was cute and fun. The two classes performed several songs. After each one, Boo would ask loudly "did you see that Dad? Did you like it?" Everyone laughed.


As usual, he didn't sit very still. He was loud. He's three and a half.

His teachers though told us, five or six times. "Well, he's the youngest. You can tell." They also told us that he's kind, generous, funny and sweet. But what I heard over and over was "you can tell he's the youngest."

I'm a little upset over it. I KNOW he's the youngest. But get over it! The class was for 3 year olds. He turned 3 in September.

This of course caused a blow up for Mr. and I. It took it as proof that we should go with my plan....Pre-K next year at L.des and then Kdg prep the year after. With my plan, he'll be turning 6 when he starts Kdg. Mr is against it. His argument is that Boo is starting to read words now. I get that. I am a teacher dear.

Everyone (and I do ask everyone) that I won't regret not sending him but that I may regret sending him early. I do NOT want him to be "that kid." The one who isn't able to behave, who is constantly in trouble. The damage from that label (which has been applied already it seems) is much bigger in my eyes than having him be "too smart" for his class. I'm much rather having him in T.A.G than be in the office b.c of problems.

I can tell he's the youngest, but he's also bright and funny and he holds my heart.

8 comments:

susan said...

It's so hard to know what the right thing to do with our kids is. You have a little while before you have to make a firm commitment either way.

My oldest missed the cut off date by a day. I was so upset, because she was so ready to go to K. Of course it worked out for the best for my honor student. As for the reading, they simply brought her in with the first graders so she wouldn't get bored.

Bean said...

Oh -- I feel your pain. My daughter is just finishing kindergarten and she is (and always will be) the youngest in her class. Even at the end of the school year and I still waffle between my feelings about all of it. Nevertheless we've decided to move her on to first grade next year. Chances are -- for you and for me -- that the kids will be fine no matter what, but we moms must worry! :)

momofonefornow said...

Hi from NCLM.

When they say that kind of junk you should just say, "I know he's the youngest. Isn't it great how he's already a leader and not a follower." I mean the rest of the kids are obviously conformists. :0)

Katie said...

Via NaComLeavMo...
and not directly related to this post but what they heck! Another knitter, yay! The first I've come across on this mad commenting whirlwind, those socks are beautiful, quick question, have you discovered Ravelry yet?

Chris said...

He's your son. You know best. Your heart will guide you.

Just visiting from NCLM . ..

korechronicles said...

Hard call, I know. But I go with the consensus of your mini-poll here. There is more potential damage in the 'youngest in class" option than in waiting for another year. And it's generally not the academic side of things that is at issue for these children, it is the social and behavioural stuff that causes problems. For example, being a good reader is no consolation to a six year old who has no friends.

Good luck with it - I'm sure you've got both the professional and personal skills to make the right decision when the time comes.

Deb said...

my second born was the yougest also and it was hard for him all the way through kdg. when he got to first grade though, maybe cause it was more structured, he was good to go.

Kim said...

I went through this too. My middle guy's b-day is Aug 19th. I sent him to a preschool this year and pre-K (k prep) this fall and then K when he is 6. It was so hard ot make the decision and he is also smart and knows letters and sounds and a few words. But emotionally he was and is not ready. I cannot imagine him going to K in the fall. I am so glad I made this decison. I think the NY Times or the Phila. Inquirer had an article about red shirting Kindergarteners. My oldest is born in Feb - and because so many people hold summer birthday kids back now, he was in the bottom half of the class in age! I couldn't believe it. This ultimately helped me to make my decision - knowing most would not send and he would be a year or more younger than some kids Good Luck and I hope it all works out for you. Oh, an dh was not on board but I put my foot down! NCLM